Taking control starts with being honest, with oneself and those around you. Being true to yourself becomes the surest foundation you can build upon. Examine your values.
One might equally say, that an honest enemy is better than a fake friend.
ਨਾਲਿ ਕਿਰਾੜਾ ਦੋਸਤੀ ਕੂੜੈ ਕੂੜੀ ਪਾਇ ॥
False is friendship with the false and greedy. False is its foundation.Verse from Sri Guru Granth Sahib, the holy book of the Sikh faith.
My pre-pandemic life was filled with noise, hubbub and demands on my time. Too many demands in fact.
Post-pandemics some of those relationships and encounters seem based on falsehoods, the needs of others over any benefit to me. They needed my light to make their efforts seem brilliant. I now choose to shine that light elsewhere.
I know my values. I know where they spring from. It’s very liberating to be free of the parasitic control of others’ needs.
False is friendship with the false and greedy. False is its foundation.
The truest relationship we can have, aside from that with ourselves, is with nature. Yes, it is also in relationships with other living beings too, and people. But only on the basis of being honest and true to yourself. Try it. You can still be caring for a wider society or community, and without sacrificing yourself.